5 reasons why being single should be the best time of your life

In life majority of us go through that tough break up. The one that just completely destroys us.  The one where you thought you two were going to spend eternity with and then it just all ends.

At that moment you think you will never get over it.  It feels like the world is ending.  Eating, sleeping, and smiling just seems impossible.  You feel completely lost as a person and at that moment you realize you don’t know who you are anymore. 

You may not realize at that time but its truly a blessing in disguise.  You are finally free! This is the best but hardest time in your life. And here is why.. 

1. Getting rid of toxic people in your life. Use this time to cut ties with anyone that does not benefit you, even the ex.  All they will do is put you down and make it hard to move on in life.  Don’t be scared to lose friends.  Cause if they were truly your friends they will always be there for you no matter what.

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2. You can finally focus on your dreams!   Focus on you.  Use your free time to workout, study more, pursue your dreams!  Don’t worry about anyone.  Be selfish!  Now that there is no one in your way of doing what you want besides YOURSELF!  Go out and get it.  If its traveling, that dream job, or that body you always wanted. Know your worth!

3.  Living on your own.                     Some may think its depression but its not!  You have more free time to be and/or find yourself.  Everyone says waking up next to the person you love is the best feeling ever.. Wrong! Sleeping like a starfish across my queen size and waking up and blasting music at anytime I want is.  Also if you love food as much as I do, you notice how everything is proportioned for at least two people.  Now you get to enjoy double the servings!

4. Travel!                                                     You finally don’t gotta wait around for that certain someone to also have free to go on a vacation. You can plan a trip around yourself and do what YOU want to do.  Also solo traveling is the best way to find yourself, make new friends, and see the world. So go dance in the streets of Barcelona, get lost in the markets of Marrakech, and go sky diving over Palm island in Dubai!

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5. Find yourself.                                         Most of us tend to forget who we are during relationships.  We get distracted.  We adapt to that person or we push our goals off to the side.  Find your happiness! Don’t rush into another relationship because you think you being with someone else makes you happy.  Find out what you wanna do in life and focus on what makes you smile on your own! Once you find your own happiness through yourself you will find that special one. The one you’re meant to spend forever with.

So go out and live your life! Regret nothing! Who cares what other people think it is your life and your happiness.

“Nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.” -Sylvester Stallone

Why you should volunteer more

Many of us were blessed with such a beautiful life. A roof over our head, food on the table everyday, and an education to better our lives.  And we take it for granted! Not everyone can be that lucky.  Some have none of those things at all.  Now I don’t know about everyone else but god certainly did not put me on this planet to just stand by and watch others struggle, while I live a rich and healthy life.

When I was in Barcelona and Madrid I noticed that there were many homeless men and women.  So every morning I went and got 20 – 1 Euro coins and as I would walk around touring the cities I would hand a Euro or two out to those in need on the street begging for help.  One day one of the older woman I was touring with asked me “why do I do that?” I was shocked.  I didn’t know what to say.  Not because I wasn’t sure why or lost for words but because this woman was questioning why I was helping others..  It blew my mind that there are people out there that think like that. That they are above everyone else.

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The reason to volunteer isn’t to get rewarded or a pat on the back.  For me I want to bring Faith, Hope, and Love to those needing a brighter day in their darkest hour of need.  If I can change someone’s day and make them smile, that is my reward!  You never know how much something so small can mean the world to someone. Who knows you might be the reason they survive another day.  Whether its bathing dogs at the shelter, sitting down and talking with the homeless, feeding the poor, or building homes for families in Haiti. Knowing you made a positive impact on someone is the greatest feeling ever!

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. You’re not paid in money or recognition, you’re paid in love.  People may forget what you said or what you did but they will never forget how you made them feel. Get out there and be that difference! Whether its volunteering at soup kitchen, abroad in a foreign country, or just a random act of kindness it goes a long way!

“Individually, we are one drop. Together we are an ocean”

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Why you should solo travel at least once in your life

Planning a trip is never easy… Especially with friends! It can get a little hectic. You have to worry about what days everyone can take off from work.  People backing out, people who cant commit fully, and you have to plan around what everyone want to do.

Don’t wait for anyone! Take that trip that you always wanted by yourself.  You don’t have to rely on anyone but yourself.  You can go whenever its convenient for you, to wherever you want to go, and see what you want to see at your own pace.

Don’t be afraid of traveling by yourself because truthfully you never really travel alone. The world is full of friends waiting to get to know you. People just like you, who want to see the world and make memories and have fun.  You’d be surprised how easy it is to make friends traveling by yourself. Some of my closest friends I met while traveling solo.  From all over the world and different ages. I’ve met this amazing couple (Mike&Diane) in Portugal who are both 63 years old and they call me at least once a week just to talk and catch up. Its incredible the opportunities solo traveling gives you! You will find out how many good, kind people are out there.

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Traveling alone is the single best gift you can give yourself.  It will be the scariest, most liberating, life changing experience of your life. Not only does it push you out of your comfort zone, it pushes you out of the zone of others expectations. You honestly find yourself and you realize who your true friends are. It changes you for the best! You’ll start to notice how lost you truly were before you went on this trip.

Solo traveling brings you closer to yourself.  You get to reflect more and it shows you a whole new meaning to life.  You learn something new about yourself and you find your own happiness.  And finding what makes you happy is the best feeling ever.  I learned my strengths and weaknesses. I experienced the exhilaration of the ups despairs of the lows and most of the feelings in between. I learned courage and I learned it myself.

If you sit around waiting for others you may never go and experience that place.  This is your life.. your book.. only you can write it. So say yes to new adventures, make new chapters. Be brave, take risk, nothing can substitute experience.

“Life your life by a compass, not a clock” – Stephen Covey

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Stop living the same old boring life and start over. 

Most of us live and die in the city where we were born, and never get to experience what the world has to offer. I don’t want to be like most of us. 

Starting a new life is never easy.  Many of us are scared to so we just come to terms with ourselves and become accustomed to our same old boring 9-5 jobs and routines. Most of us get that chance to start over at one point but we don’t take it. The thought of change and leaving everything behind scares the hell out of us. 

One fine day, it will be your turn. Take that chance! 

 You will leave homes, cities, and countries to pursue grander ambitions.

You will leave friends, lovers, and possibilities, for the chance to roam the world and make deeper connections.

You will defy your fear of change, hold your head high, and do what you once thought was unthinkable: walk away.

It will be scary, at first.

But what you’ll find in the end is that in leaving,

you don’t just find love, adventure, or freedom. 

More than anything, you find you.

You will find your worth and your happiness. Life will have a new meaning to you. You’re doing things you thought you’d only dream of. 

So get off your ass. Take that chance! Take that job in LA, go on that trip you’ve been wanting to do, buy that house in Florida you always wanted, or whatever it might be.. Just go for it. It might be difficult and not how you planned it at first, but in the end it will be worth it.